By Erin Davis
First, no … that is not a maternity shirt. It looked so much more flattering in my closet. (Darn you, squishy tummy!).
Second, yes … I have heard of those things called hairbrushes. We filmed this on Father’s Day which I opted to spend fishing off a lake dock. (I’d like to thank the Academy for the wife of the year nomination).
In real life I am 5’6″-ish. My man is 6’2″-fabulous. But in this video I look like a giant and he looks shrimpy. Needless to say, I realize this isn’t my most video worthy look. And yet, look at that handsome man beside me! And he’s smart too! He has some great insights on a husband’s perspective on what it’s like when your wife becomes a mommy along with some great tips on how we can love our men well during the little years.
So … I am scrapping my vanity, and sending this video out into the blogosphere with my head held high in all of my chartreuse glory, in the hopes that it will benefit another mother out there as she walks the tightrope of being a wife and am mom.
Erin, I just love this! You are beautiful in all of your chartreuse glory! I thought your husband had some wise words there–both for the baby stages and beyond. My guy just wants to know that what he DOES do is appreciated and noticed. Believe it or not, I sometimes forget that he is supporting FIVE people. That’s a lot of responsibility! Plus, he makes relational time and energy for each of us individually. Dates with me; breakfasts with the kids. He reads to each of them before bed. He’s amazing! So how can I fail to notice all this, and focus rather on… say… the uncut grass that our company had to tread on this evening? I’d be a fool not to notice or appreciate the many, many ways he contributes to our family’s well being.
We did a video response! You can find it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_ICWQWZAOo&list=UUiPk2LSHqVcT9FcLvU7X9Yg&index=1&feature=plcp
I hope you enjoy!
-Emily
Erin, Loved your Olan Mills shot. You look beautiful and your wisdom and passion is infectious. I am sitting here in the east coast, blessed by your insights and your call to motherhood as a ministry. Really, I wish I could hang out with you and absorb some of that infectious passion that you have for this high and sacred calling.
Regarding how our marriage is impacted by parenting….
Earlier on itself we learned the truth that ‘we were only there for each other before children came along. We will only be there for each other after children goes.’ We don’t want to be caught in “living together to raise children madness” and wake up one morning as empty nesters, look at each other and ask, “Ahem..who are you?”
That said, we don’t live our lives selfish, but pour into our children, considering motherhood as a sacred calling.
We get into a crazy cycle often, no rest- frustrated, less grace-children frustrated. We have to be really intentional and sacrificial to give each other the rest and time needed to get out of the crazy cycle once we hit it.
Cute video! My husband and I have four kids now and they are pretty close in age, 6-1 years old. The first few months of each baby were pretty intense with no sleep, hormones, and adjusting to another member in the family. With each one, we learned that we just needed a mindset that this time would be a season that required a lot of work and giving. After the first two kids, we were more prepared when the next two came along. We just went into the baby season knowing that we needed to communicate, be patient with each other, and let go of usual important things to do around the house. We let the house be messier; we ate easier meals; we gave to each other when we could; and we did our best to be intentional when quiet moments popped up. The new baby season is not easy. Going into with a mindset prepared for work was better for us than thinking it would be a cake walk