By Erin Davis
We girls have been talking quite a bit about “date nights” here on the blog lately. Heidi has Saturday Night Date Night in her very own kitchen. (She convinces her kiddos it’s kids dinner night … genius!). I fessed up that my hubs and I don’t really do date nights at all (and we kind of like it that way). In “Beyond Bath Time,” my friend (and fellow BBT.com blogger) Kristie said that the pressure to have regular date nights was part of the angst she felt to be a “perfect” mom. Clearly, there is more at stake here than dinner and a movie. We mommas have ourselves all worked up about this date night business.
If there is one thing I can count on to come to my rescue as I mother, it’s Google. Well, Jesus and Google. But it turns out that Google has some really great ideas about how we can date our husbands at home without spending a penny, hiring a sitter, or having to shave our legs (Halleluiah!).
Specifically, I have fallen in love with thedatingdivas.com. It’s a fabulous site that offers tons of ideas for dating your man and spending quality time with your family without leaving home.
I’ve stolen their best ideas and assembled them here as 10 ways to date your hubby at home. I’ll just give you the Cliff’s Notes version. Follow the links for more info and pics.
No babysitter required. Bring on the love, mommas!
1. Rooftop Dinner: Drag a blanket (or your patio set) up on your roof. Pack a tiny picnic in a basket and attach a rope. Let the kids play in the yard below or wait until they are sleeping (When all dating magic happens). Shimmy up together. Hoist up the basket and make a memory.
2. Plan a Water Fight: If you follow the link, you’ll find a water fight with a twist. I got lost about step two, but I liked the idea. My man is pretty competitive and I am more competitive than any nice Christian gal every should be. (Insert elbow throw). It’s nice to get those competitive juices flowing. A water gun war on a hot day seems like just the ticket. (R-rated thought: What effect do you think wet t-shirts might have on your man? Hmmm…).
This Nerf Wars date will accomplish the same adrenaline pumping minus the water fun.
3. Spa Night: Massages. Bath salts. Relaxation. Guaranteed love.
4. Kindergarten Date: Nothing says lovin’ like an acrostic (or something like that). This date takes the letters of the alphabet and plans an activity for each letter. You can download the finished checklist here. It looks a little something like this:
A: Apple slices
B: Board game
C: Cookie Monster
D: Draw pictures of each other using crayons.
You get the idea!
5. Family Drive-in: I love this idea for a family date night using boxes as cars for a drive-in feel. Supplies needed boxes, movie, popcorn and F-U-N.
6. The Fate Burger: This is a great group date that involves burgers, condiments and a dartboard. Everyone brings burger toppings, and then assembling burgers becomes a game. My man loves burgers. My man loves dartboards. My man loves our friends. My man would love the fate burger!
7. YouTube date night: This one is simple. Watch funny videos on YouTube. Laugh together. Repeat. The Dating Divas point to some of their faves in the link above. Here are a couple of my all time favorites to add to the list.
— Bon Qui Qui at King Burger: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ISOq3KmpuA
— Hidden Water sinkhole: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9L8f-ppJ0Lo
— Grape Lade Falls: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMS0O3kknvk
8. Patio Prom: You pick a theme. You invite your man to prom. You blow up some balloons. And you dance. Bring the kids or not. Either way it will put you in the wayback machine and get you dreaming back to when Jon Bon Jovi was young and you were just falling in love. (Livin’ on a Prayer …)
9. Couples Minute To Win It: This is a group date with games from the hit show Minute To Win It. Gather friends. Put a cookie on your face. Try to move it with your face muscles. Get the warm fuzzies!
10. My Choice Your Choice: This is like choose your own adventure. Take turns choosing 1) A treat; 2) A game; 3) What to talk about. Did you hear that? It’s a date where you TALK! Cool. But better to tell your husband it is a choose-your-own adventure date, not a let’s-talk date. That makes them skeered. Here’s a PDF with conversation starters.
Let the dating begin!
(What’s your best cheap date idea? Leave us a comment and you could win a copy of “Half-Price Living: Secrets to Living Well on One Income” by Ellie Kay.)
ERIN DAVIS is the founder of Graffiti Ministries, an organization dedicated to addressing the issues of identity, worth, and true beauty in the lives of young women. She is the author of Beyond Bath Time, which addresses the importance of motherhood as a sacred role. A popular speaker, author and blogger, Erin has addressed women of all ages nationwide and written several books including Beyond Bath Time, Graffiti: Learning to See the Art in Ourselves, True Princess, and The Bare Facts, co-written with Josh McDowell. Her quest for the perfect scoop of ice cream is never ending and her children Eli and Noble are her constant source of entertainment.