Walking with a Friend through a Miscarriage

By: Heather Patenaude

ID-100137117More than 9 years ago I experienced a miscarriage at 10 weeks with our first baby. Over the years I’ve been able to come along side many friends who deal with this type of loss.

I am always honored to help walk another woman through the devastation of a miscarriage and l want to share some practical ways to support and walk along side a friend who has miscarried.

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Finding Love In The Aftermath

By Kate Kirchner

“O Lord, you searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O Lord. You hem me in — behind and before; you laid your hand upon me.”

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Losing Aaliyah

By Kate Kirchner

It was the day of our first midwife appointment for our second child and anticipation was joyfully high. After some paperwork and conversation with our midwife it was time for the lovely urine test. This seems like a simple task right? I just wanted to get all that stuff over with and hear our baby’s heartbeat. Now looking back on that little test, it wasn’t so simple after all. Sometimes I feel like if I had a choice, knowing what I know now, I would have preferred the paperwork and small talk. Continue reading

When Miscarriage Happens Again

By Charity Fahlstrom

I didn’t realize how hard it would hit me. The doctor came in and stated, “I’m sorry, you’re baby measured only 6 1/2 weeks even though you should be 11.” He stated it so matter-of-factly, as if I should know and be ready for the news. I sat there, stunned, and unsure how to respond. This was the same doctor who had delivered my first child, a healthy boy, almost four years earlier, who had also empathized with me at loss of my second child through miscarriage and who had delivered my healthy daughter almost 17 months ago. And even though I had tried to prepare my heart and mind for the possibility of losing this fourth baby, when he said the words, I felt hope die. Continue reading

One Momma Faces a Miscarriage

“Miscarriage” it’s a word that strikes fear into the heart of women everywhere. And yet, it is a painful reality faced by many women. Two of my dearest friends, Charity and Kate, lost little ones within a few weeks of each other. They both carried themselves with such grace and fierce dependence on God through the whole thing. I cried with them and for them, but mostly I sat back in awe of they way they clung to the Life-giver.

As I thought of their struggles, I imagined other women who had suffered this unique kind of loss going to the Internet for answers. I worried they would find cold, clinical responses or something that fed their fear. So, I asked Charity and Kate if they would mind sharing their stories with the readers of this blog. They agreed. You can read Charity’s story of miscarriage today and tomorrow and Kate’s on Wednesday and Thursday. I hope their honestly and faith encourages you to gold tightly to Jesus even in the darkest of valleys.

— Erin Davis
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