Lessons Learned by Observing Our Children

By: Julie Paulsen

HeatherPatenaude111313Do you have family stories that are told repeatedly? Stories how Suzie broke both her wrists at the same time, or your all-American family vacation that turned into a nightmare?  And ladies, how many times have you recounted every detail of your birth stories?  We’re women, who bothers counting, it’s the story shared most with girlfriends?  In our house it was the “Story of the Crib Toy.”

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Christmas Prep!

By: Heather Patenaude

christmas-countdown-wallpapers-2-1024x768Last week here at Beyond Bath Time we started a series to help you prep for Christmas! We’re now at under 6 weeks to go!

Don’t you find the more prep you do, for pretty much anything, the less stressful it is! Well, I’d love to see you have a less stressful holiday! I’d love to see you enjoy December, enjoy your family, and actually breath!

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Three Discipline Pitfalls to Avoid

By Miriam Walsh

33823nvtg4pw41eNumber One: Are you inconsistent?

Does disciplining your kids depend on things like the schedule or the fallout that’s sure to ensue from them once you do?  Does it depend on whether or not you can even remember what the rules are? This generates stress and more importantly, is ineffective. If we can’t remember our own rules, how can we expect them to remember? Establish the consequences ahead of time—maybe even post it somewhere—and be sure to stick to them.

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Developing the Heart of Christ

Today is another installment of our “Faith-Based Parenting” series

By: Kimberly Wagner

faith based parenting graphicHave you seen the series of commercials by Coke Zero? I was shocked and a little sickened when I saw one of these while a group of us were watching a basketball game at a friend’s house. Coke calls it their “Enjoy Everything” marketing campaign and according to their website, this newest series is geared to tell men, “It’s not your fault . . .” and to celebrate “guys being guys.” I’m not sure what they mean by that, unless they mean guys are to celebrate selfishness.

The commercials are promoting letting responsibility go, because you deserve to “Enjoy Everything.” Instead of picking up his in-laws at the airport, this guy was applauded by the narrator for choosing to stay home and win the battle on a video game.

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Christmas Prep!

By: Heather Patenaude

christmas-countdown-wallpapers-2-1024x768Can you believe it’s just over seven weeks till Christmas!?! Does that thought make you panic?

Most of us find the holiday season to be stressful, hectic, overwhelming, not very fun, and down right a lot of work!

Over the next few weeks I’m going to help you get prepared for Christmas! Take my tips, apply them to your situation as you see fit (or maybe not at all), and perhaps you will find yourself less stressful in the weeks to come!

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Submission: Like Riding a Bike

By: Amy Cantilina 

ID-100139137 (1)One Columbus Day weekend a few years ago, my husband and I decided to go for a long bike ride together.  The kids were all in school, and he was home for the federal holiday.  It was a beautiful day, and we were almost giddy at the thought that we had 6 whole hours to ourselves.  Our best “dates” have historically included a trip to the gym, a good hard run, or going for a swim together.  This time, we decided to bike about 64 miles—insanely farther than I had ever biked at one time before.  Tom mapped out our route which would get us home just in time to pick up our youngest from preschool.

As we biked together, down long stretches of mostly quiet roads, hugging the shoulder and riding single-file in order to take turns drafting, my mind began to mull the lessons we had been discussing in our Bible study, many of which had centered on concepts related to submission.  God opened my eyes, in fact, to see that the very act of biking together with my husband was an amazing example of submission—both of its implementation and its benefits.

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Dorothy ~ A Prayer Warrior

By: Julie Paulsen

DorthyAs many of you know, I’m in the way, way, Beyond Bath Time season!  But I can still get down on my knees by the tub to scrub-a-dub-dub our grandchildren!  I’d like to introduce you to my friend, Dorothy, who is in the stage of life where all she can do is scrub behind a child’s ear, so to speak.  But at the age of 97 this woman of God is so much more to her family and friends.  On Wednesday mornings at 7 a.m., she sits by me at our weekly prayer meeting where I glean first hand from her humble wisdom poured out from a life lived by faithfully walking and talking with God.

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Smell my Feet?

By: Shannon Popkin

dsc_0248Halloween is the time of year my boys dress up as a Cowboy and Zorro and pose with their weapons pointed at each other, big smiles on their faces, so I can take pictures. Even my daughter, who is in high school still dresses up and goes out with her friends to collect free candy from the neighbors. Then they all come back and sort their loot in the family room. It’s tradition.

We tell our kids that it’s fine to celebrate the good parts about Halloween—the candy and the dressing up and spending time with friends and neighbors. In fact, if we chose to stay inside with the porch lights off, we feel like we’d miss out on connecting with neighbors, since Halloween is one of the only nights of the year that everyone’s outside!

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When A Mom Crashes Into the Whitehouse

By: Erin Davis

ID-100137117I can’t stop thinking about Miriam Carey.

You may know her as the woman who crashed her car into the White House a couple of weeks ago. She was killed by D.C. police after leading them on a terrifying chase. Her 18-month-old daughter was strapped in her car seat in the back seat.

Miriam was not a terrorist.

She was a dental hygienist from Connecticut with no known history of violence.

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Confession of a Selfish Mom

Selfish (1)Confessions of a selfish mom:

Some days I’m keenly aware of my self-centeredness. I like to wake up and have my home revolve around my needs. My need for sleep. My need for my coffee. My need for my space. My need for my children to behave like I want them to. My need for my husband to respond to me the way that makes me comfortable.

But God’s truth confronts these “needs” and brings them to proper perspective. These are self-centered wants, demands, expectations. I create an idol out of my comfort. This pushes God to the side. It shows my tiny view of the cross.

Jesus came to serve others. He came to lay down His life for others. As daughters of the Most High King, this is our role. To lay aside wants and demands and to serve. To realize what we really deserve is hell, eternity separated from God. What He’s given us is grace and He imparted His righteousness to us.

I must preach the Gospel to myself daily. To view myself through the cross. To seek to live the Gospel to my family. To purge selfishness from my heart through the power given to us through the Holy Spirit.

All for His glory!
A Selfish Mom clinging to the cross!

Emotional Atmosphere in Your Home

By: Heather Patenaude

twitter_emotionsWhat is the emotional atmosphere or climate your home? Who controls the temperature?

Often times, in the home, it’s one of the parents who controls the emotional atmosphere, and more often than not, it’s mom! As children get older one of the children can take the control of this by “acting out” or being the problem child. Therefore the whole family centers around this issues and the child has control of the emotional atmosphere.

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Remembering Hannah

By: Jenni Stanphill

pregnancy-infant-loss-remembrance-dayYesterday, October 15, 2013, was a bittersweet day for me.  You see, it is my first born son, Micah’s, birthday….but it is also National Infant Loss Awareness and Remembrance Day.

As I have walked this journey of loss now for the last 8 years, I realize I am not the person I once was.  Loss changes you.  Any kind of loss does, but I think the loss of a child really does.  It’s not normal that your child dies before you do.

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This Lonely Road

Today is “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day” and my friend Jenni Stanphill will share today and tomorrow about her losses.

By: Jenni Stanphill

pregnancy-infant-loss-remembrance-dayHeather asked me to share a little bit about my journey down the road of losing a daughter, which was born still.

I thought I would share something that I wrote not long after Hannah was born:

This is not a road I ever planned to travel. My dreams of how my life and family were supposed to be did not include any of this. I planned on a complete family, full of life, love and happiness.

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Faces like Angels

By Miriam Walsh

UntitledI had no idea I was capable of such a visceral, ugly response until someone wronged my kid. Anger was an understatement. No kid is perfect. And every good mom wants her kids to get what’s coming to them when they deserve it. But this situation was borne out of one kid unashamedly defending his faith and helping a newer believer to do the same. That made both of them a target.

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