Not-So Quiet Times

By Erin Davis

“Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!” Psalm 46:10.

Has the idea of a personal “quiet time” made you feel guilty during these mommy years? Cramming time for prayer and Bible study into the nooks and crannies of mothering means: A) Hiring a babysitter; B) Locking the door and shouting something like, “LEAVE MOMMY ALONE, I AM TALKING TO JESUS!” or C) Waking up so early that you can only sit and stare at your Bible through tired and bleary eyes. Continue reading

Growing Boys Into Warriors

By Erin Davis

A recent NY Times article has me shaking in my momma boots. The article, by columnist David Brooks, points out how our educational system is failing boys, primarily by squeezing the testosterone out of them. (You can read the whole article here.) Continue reading

The Cure For “Can’t Have People Over” Syndrome

By Erin Davis

When I was a little girl, one of the worst things that could happen in my world was for my mom to invite friends over for dinner. It always meant a few hours of insanity while we raced around throwing things in closets, scrubbing everything in sight and doing our best to make it look like no one lived at our house.

My mom kept a very clean house; she just tended to go a little overboard with the cleanliness when company was coming. (At least that’s how it felt to my little girl mind).

Fast-forward twenty years. With two kids under age five, a work from home job that tends to spill out into every room, and a schedule that is stretched to the limit, my home isn’t as neat and clean as I would like it to be. In fact, lately I’ve been suffering with “Can’t Have People Over” Syndrome. True, I totally made the condition up, but I know there are other sufferers out there. Symptoms include: Paralyzing fear that someone will “drop by” and see how you really live, reluctance to host friends and family because of the effort it would require to whip your house in to shape and envy over those women who manage to keep a clean home.

It is tempting to let the clutter in our homes take center stage and trump using our homes to minister and fellowship with others, but then we come across little gems like this in Scripture:

“Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality” (Romans 12:13).

The essence of this verse is not that we should be striving for Martha Stewart standards in our homes. Note that there are zero biblical instructions on how to braise a duck or make a doily out of last week’s newspaper. But the Bible does encourage us to use our homes to welcome other believers and to those we don’t know well.

With that urging in mind, here are a few principles to apply to you and your home.

Put stuff in its place

A place for everything and everything in its place. What a wise organizational strategy! For those of you with a love of label makers, this may mean an elaborate organizational system. For me it means a tub or basket in every room where loose items can be stored. If your level of stuff has reached a point where things are spilling out everywhere, it is time to de-clutter.

This is also a good reminder for our hearts. From time to time we need to put stuff in its place in terms of our priorities. To value the stuff that is cluttering up your home over an opportunity to use your home to minister is a sure sign it’s time to reorganize.

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal” (Matthew 16:19-20).

Let go of perfect

The reason the Bible urges us to be hospitable is because of our need for human connection, not because God caught wind of your brownie recipe. It’s great to go above and beyond when hosting people in your home, but it’s also okay to eat pizza off of paper plates during a heated game of Yatzee. The goal is to connect with other believers in a way that leads to love, laughter, and encouragement.

Let go of the notion that everything has to be perfect in order for your home to be used for ministry. The point is to love others well, not to scrub the baseboards with a toothbrush.

It’s not your stuff anyway

Here’s the good news — all of that stuff that is cluttering up your home, isn’t even yours! That’s because ultimately it all belongs to God.

In Haggai 2:8 we read, “The silver is mine, and the gold is mine, declares the Lord of hosts.”

Psalm 50:10 says, “For every beast of the forest is mine, the cattle on a thousands hills.”

Psalm 24:1 says, “The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein.”

It is all His. If the stuff God has loaned you is preventing you from ministry, that’s bad stewardship.

So go on, de-clutter if you need to. Or embrace the clutter and use your imperfect home to comfort imperfect people. God’s Truth is that our homes are on loan and should be used to bless others. Embracing this truth is the best cure for Can’t Have People Over Syndrome.

How can you use your home to bless others this week?

(Leave us a comment on how you can bless someone else this week, and you could win a copy of Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ CD, “The Heart of Hospitality.”)

ERIN DAVIS is the founder of Graffiti Ministries, an organization dedicated to addressing the issues of identity, worth, and true beauty in the lives of young women. She is the author of Beyond Bath Time, which addresses the importance of motherhood as a sacred role. A popular speaker, author and blogger, Erin has addressed women of all ages nationwide and written several books including Beyond Bath Time, Graffiti: Learning to See the Art in Ourselves, True Princess, and The Bare Facts, co-written with Josh McDowell. Her quest for the perfect scoop of ice cream is never ending and her children Eli and Noble are her constant source of entertainment.

What’s My Motivation?

By Erin Davis

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)

If I was giving a book report on my book for moms, “Beyond Bath Time,” I would simmer the contents down to four words: Motherhood is a ministry. A summary that brief probably wouldn’t earn me an A from any teacher, but it truly is a simple and radical message that has the power to revolutionize your attitude toward motherhood. Continue reading

Do You Hear a Buzzing in the Wall?

By Shannon Popkin

(From, 05.25.12)

The kids had been complaining about bees in the basement. From their Lego territory, they would call out, “Mom, there’s another bee flying around down here!” But I just never took the time to go down and check it out. I would say, “Ok … just leave it alone.” Was I thinking the bee would find its way back outside? I’m not sure. I guess it was easier to ignore the problem, and hope it went away. Continue reading

A Battle Cry for Perseverance

By Heidi Jo Fulk

I have disciplined children all day. I have corrected children all day. I have given explanations to children all day. And it’s only two o’clock in the afternoon.

My day started off so well. A sunny, early morning. Coffee pre-set and waiting for me as I came downstairs. Some quiet time to study my Bible and pray. That lasted 10 minutes. Continue reading

The Importance of Prayer

By Dougetta Nuneviller

“Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:18

It is my understanding through God’s word that walking in prayer is a place where God wants us to stay. On our knees, seeking His will for our life as an individual as well as intervening for our children. Continue reading

On Not Asking Jesus Into Little Hearts

By Erin Davis

My four-year-old, Eli, is as concrete sequential as they come. Here’s an example: When
he was three, he came home from church one Sunday clearly agitated. He was weepy and
whiny and just not himself.

After much prodding he finally wailed, “Jesus has my heart and I want it back.” Poor
buddy. Continue reading